One of the key ingredients needed to craft your better life is to have a system for understanding how and why people are different from one another. In formal psychology, this is called the study of personality.
Trying to understand how other people are dissimilar from each other and from you is important, as those differences can be crucial in our social world. One person responds well to a joke, while another is annoyed. One person would love to be invited to your party, but another doesn’t want to be bothered. One customer likes to chat and tell stories, while another is more businesslike and private.
Throughout the ages, gurus and scholars have attempted to take some of the guesswork out of how to approach others by thinking up systems to categorize others. Astrology is one idea, Jungian psychology has another. In the business world, instruments such as the Myers-Briggs inventory have been very popular, and in clinical psychology tests like the Rorschach and the MMPI have attempted to shed insight into the world of individual differences.
All of these and other previous systems have been badly flawed, but fortunately these inaccuracies have recently been corrected. The good news is that you don’t need to be a psychologist or an astrologer to become a really good reader of human personality, but it helps to have the right system. It was finally discovered, deep in the elite world of academic psychology, how people are really put together.
At the heart of these ideas is Esteem Dynamics, the basic motivational processes that make up human nature. Knowing how Esteem Dynamics work can help you at important moments when a lot is on the line – in a similar way that a smooth diplomat seems to instinctively know how to make a good decision in particular moment.
You can learn a system for better decision making, and acquire this ability. You don’t have to be a born a social genius. Once you know what key ideas and characteristics to look for, you can study them and attain the skills required to give you poise and understanding in virtually every social situation.
Within this site are those powerful keys to success in work, love, and life. These keys are a set of ideas that help to give you the insight into why people do the things they do.
The five key variables to understanding people are, literally, called “The Big Five” by academic psychologists. Personality psychologists have been delighted to have finally cracked nature’s human personality code and to be able to see how these five moving parts fit together to tell the story of each individual person.
The “Big Five” are openness to experience, conscientiousness, extraversion-introversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. Together, they spell the word “OCEAN”, and they make up the fundamental parts from which the great diversity of human personalities emerge.
Understanding how these parts work within each person, and what it means for how to best deal with them, is a major component of effective living. In this site, we show you the fundamentals of how personalities work, and how use those insights daily in your work, family, friendship, and love.